Are you “Bad Ass”!
- Jenn Halladay
- Apr 16, 2019
- 4 min read
Not my words!
I experienced a cool moment today!
I walked into the Maverik® convenience store I always walk into, bought my typical drinks and bar I like and walked up to the cash register I typically go to with the same attendant.
He helps me quite a bit especially this time of day (around 3:00 ish). I am usually finishing up a bike ride (on my road bike) so he always asks me how I did or if I rode today.
On this day I had not ridden yet because I was participating in a group ride later in the evening. I told him it was going to be hard.
I know because I have participated in this ride for over 15 years now (The Tuesday Night Ride) and it’s a stay on (in the group) until you drop (can’t ride the pace anymore) kind of ride. Of course no one wants to get dropped, that’s no fun and if you got dropped it means you blew (fell off the group) and that’s really no fun!
Usually, the group I go with is the fast group meaning no other women (typically) and a bunch of fast men so I am hanging on for dear life especially if I’m not "feeling it"!
I explained this to him and he looked at me and said, “But you’re a Bad Ass!”
I thought that was fun and decided that was the greatest compliment I got all day.
So this got me thinking, there are not too many riders who can hang in the group I am able to ride with, especially female riders.
Maybe I am “Bad Ass”!
Made my day!
So I have decided the following:
“Bad Ass” (BA) Mom = Amazing Mom
All moms are BA.
The fact that you are in this category qualifies you for this title whether you like it or not. It is actually a really good thing.
If you don’t want to call it BA, then call it amazing.
You have probably already had a BA moment and didn’t realize it (this is quite common with most moms), or you have created this moment already and know that your are a "Bad Ass". If you don’t know this about yourself, I am going to help you realize it.
What does it take to experience moments like this while you’re in the heat of the motherhood moment?
Why are these moments so important?
BA Moments
This is where your “One Thing” can help (The One Thing-Blog Post). These “BA” moments are created by who you are (your personality, individuality) and what you choose to participate in or experience based on these traits.
These types of moments are directed at you personally because of something you did, said and participated in.
Something you have done personally that just crushes the situation and makes everyone around you go, “Wow, she is amazing!” AKA-“Bad Ass”
My Grandma Ann was an "Amazing Mom"! She is one of my role models. She passed away 3 years ago. If I can do half the things she has done and experienced I will have accomplished amazing things just like her!
I remember one time pulling up to her house because we needed to visit her. I knew her health was starting to fail her and she was having heart problems so she needed to stay low key with her activity.
Well as we pulled into her driveway there she was lugging a big garbage can around the corner into her garage. My husband turned to me and asked, “Is she supposed to be doing that?”
Of course she wasn’t so I jumped out and made her give it up to Scot. She did so reluctantly.
This was the story of her life. She raised 3 kids by herself because her husband was killed in a plane crash when they were all young (ages 1 to 5), got two college degrees and provided for her family without government help because this was who she was, “Bad Ass”!
I haven’t had to endure even a tenth of what she had to go through and overcome. Her example of perseverance keeps me going and wanting to be like her!
Why is this important and how can you start experiencing/realizing your BA moments?
Realize you have already had these moments so think back and find those moments in your memory bank and write them down. Better yet, ask your family! They will tell you. I guarantee they think you are BA (especially your kids)! Write it down. When things get hard (because they will) you can go back and read how amazing you are. This will get you through anything.
Who do you admire? Why do you admire them? What do they do and how do they do it? Emulate this but tweak it to fit you because you are you and your individuality will make the experience unique and amazing for you and everyone around you. Believe it or not there are people, family members, friends, associates who look up to you. Most people don’t think about saying it! (Telling you about your BA moments.) But know this, you are!
Own it! When you actually realize it and have a moment, tell yourself out loud “I am Bad Ass, (Amazing)!” Then live in that moment as long as practical! Always write it down! Create a BA journal!
So what’s the point!
When you start seeking these moments you will experience these moments and it will change your life! It will change the view you have of yourself in a very positive way. You will have courage to do things you never thought you could and provide fulfillment for yourself you didn’t have or think you deserved.
What will happen is this. Your kids and grandkids will want to be like you! “Bad Ass”
P.S. - I never told you how I did on that ride. I was 3rd out of about 20 men. Still got it! I’m going to own that one!
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